I Love My Surrogate!
I don’t mean that in a figurative way, or as a way to express my overall joy of becoming a parent through surrogacy. I literally mean I love my surrogate! I realize that for most people the month of February elicits thoughts of romantic love. But for me, the love of my wonderful, amazing, miracle baby, is coupled with an overwhelming feeling of love for my surrogate!
As we all know, there are many types of love that we experience in our lives. The ancient Greeks had several words for love enabling them to distinguish more clearly between different types of love. The love I feel for my surrogate is in a category all by itself, and I feel compelled to share with others! I hope that my words can help someone that is contemplating embarking upon the surrogacy process to become a parent. I think they may also be helpful for any woman that is considering becoming a surrogate to help others.
I had no idea that my journey would culminate (hopefully) with my long-awaited child, but also experiencing a type of love that I did not realize existed. It has enriched my life and reinforced my belief that most humans are good, kind, and want to help others. If I had known that when I started, it would have helped me greatly as I trudged through all of the steps in the surrogacy process. It is not because my surrogacy process and journey was especially difficult compared to others. It is that at the very beginning stages, there were so many steps in the surrogacy process that it felt daunting. Especially after all the years of disappointments and losses that had come before.
Now that I have crossed over to the other side so to speak, it was of course worth it! So now, along with enjoying my newly expanded family, I want to share how it feels to be on the other side! And the love for my surrogate is not something I expected to be feeling and writing about now! But as love oftentimes does, it makes me want to shout from the rooftops and tell everyone what an amazing woman my surrogate is, and tell the world I love her! Happy Valentine’s Day to all! For those of you that may step into the surrogacy world, I hope you experience the unique and amazing love that I have shared with you today!
J.M. (aka Owen’s mom)
If it is in your heart to help a family become parents by becoming a surrogate, contact Pathways To Parenthood today and get started. If having a baby through surrogacy is an option you are considering, take the first step and contact Pathways To Parenthood today! They have helped surrogates and intended parents come together in Kansas, Missouri, Colorado, Oklahoma, Iowa, Illinois, and Arkansas. If you live in the Midwest, they are the surrogacy agency for you! You can reach them at 913-469-5500 or at www.pathwaystoparenthood.com.
My Surrogacy Story
By Angela K
My desire to help another family by becoming a surrogate was with me for many years. It was something I thought about often, but I wanted to wait until I was done having my own children. After completing my family, and witnessing a close friend struggle with infertility, I decided it was time to give the gift of life through surrogacy to another family.
After doing research about the surrogacy process, I took the first step! I completed the pre-screening application with my surrogacy agency, Pathways To Parenthood. Once I completed all of the steps in the surrogacy screening process, I quickly began the matching process. My hope was to match with a couple that would provide a happy, safe, and stable home for a child. I saw that in the couple that I matched with, and I was thrilled to begin the surrogacy process with them.
There were a few steps in the surrogacy process before the embryo transfer, but eventually the day we all had been dreaming of finally arrived. We had all agreed to transfer two embryos with the hope that I would become pregnant with twins. A few weeks later we learned that is exactly what happened, we were pregnant with twins! We could hardly believe it! Seeing two little heartbeats made us all so joyful.
My surrogacy pregnancy was for the most part, all that I had hoped it would be. There were a few small hiccups, but nothing major. Having the support of my intended parents made things easier for me. Knowing I was going to help make their dreams come true to become parents to two children was always with me and made the pregnancy easier still. My surrogacy agency was also there for me to support me if I needed it. Fortunately, there was not much I needed support for! I feel so blessed that my pregnancy went pretty smoothly, and my intended parents were so wonderful.
The best day of all arrived when I was induced at 37 weeks, and gave birth to two beautiful, perfect babies. Seeing my intended parents with their children was the happy ending that I had thought about for so long!
Surrogacy in 2021: Taking the first step…
You don’t have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step.
Martin Luther King Jr.
As we begin this fresh new year, there are many hopes and dreams we all carry in our hearts for 2021. If having a baby is one of your dreams, and surrogacy is part of that dream, taking the first step can be very difficult. Making the decision to build your family through surrogacy can certainly be daunting enough. But it is just the beginning as you embark on the surrogacy process, which can feel so overwhelming. It is hard to take the first step because you may not know what the first step might be, and how many steps there are.
Consulting with a surrogacy agency can be so helpful if you find yourself in this situation. As the quote from Martin Luther King Jr. states, you don’t have to see the whole staircase to take the first step! It would sure be helpful though wouldn’t it? Talking with a reputable surrogacy agency can be the first step that helps you see the whole staircase. They can also assist you in developing a plan and timeline to get the top!
If you aren’t quite ready to embark on your surrogacy process yet, that is okay! It can still be quite beneficial to take the first step of gathering information and developing your plan. Below are a few questions that a consultation with a surrogacy agency can help you with as you consider building your family through surrogacy.
- What are the costs for the surrogacy process?
- How long does it take to have a baby using a surrogate?
- What is the surrogacy matching process like?
- What is the surrogacy screening process?
- What kind of women want to become a surrogate?
- Is surrogacy legal? What is the legal process for surrogacy?
You likely have more questions than are on this list, but it is a good start. These are very important questions to get answers to as you take the first step of gathering information about having a baby through surrogacy. Whatever your hopes and dreams are, may they be fulfilled in 2021!
If it is your dream to help a family become parents by becoming a surrogate, contact Pathways To Parenthood today and get started. If your dream is having a baby and surrogacy is an option you are considering, take the first step and contact Pathways To Parenthood today! They have helped surrogates and intended parents come together in Kansas, Missouri, Colorado, Oklahoma, Iowa, Illinois, and Arkansas. If you live in the Midwest, they are the surrogacy agency for you! You can reach them at 913-469-5500 or at www.pathwaystoparenthood.com.
Happy Holidays From Pathways To Parenthood: An Egg Donor & Surrogacy Agency
From our family to yours, may this holiday season bring you peace, comfort, and joy. It is likely that will look a bit different this year for all of us, but we hope it is attainable for you and yours!
With the new year right around the corner (thank goodness!), we also wish you a fresh new start! If your fresh start includes building your family through egg donation or surrogacy, let’s talk! If you wish to help others by becoming an egg donor or becoming a surrogate, let’s talk!
If surrogacy and/or egg donation is your path to parenthood, or if you wish to help a family become parents by becoming a surrogate or egg donor, contact Pathways To Parenthood today and get started. We have helped surrogates and intended parents come together in Kansas, Missouri, Colorado, Oklahoma, Iowa, Illinois, and Arkansas. If you live in the Midwest, we are the surrogacy agency for you! You can reach us at 913-469-5500 or at kerry@pathwaystoparenthood.com
One final thought for closing out 2020 and beginning anew in 2021:
New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.
Lao Tzu