Tips To Cope With The Holidays in Kansas City
Hippity Hop Hop here comes Easter. For many, Easter is a joyous holiday celebrated with family and friends. For those that have struggled with infertility, the joy of celebrating is overshadowed with the sadness and dread of spending another family-focused/kid-focused holiday feeling sad and hopeless (maybe even a little angry).
There is always the option of just not participating in any celebration or family get together. And frankly, sometimes that is the best option. But for those of you that would like other suggestions on how to cope, here are a few:
- If you are telling yourself that you should or should not do something, feel something, or expect something, you are going to feel worse than you already do. It is reasonable to expect to feel rotten to some degree during any holiday season while you are going through such a difficult life experience.
- Be selective about the family events you will attend, or limit how long you will be in attendance. Again, don’t tell yourself you should or should not consider this option. Doing so may lessen the pain you will experience from the holiday.
- Create new traditions with your partner/spouse. It is perfectly acceptable to do something new and/or different to celebrate a holiday season. Any disappointment that your family, or your spouse’s family may express may be more bearable than a roomful of children at the family gathering.
For information about family building using an egg donor or gestational surrogate, visit www.pathwaystoparenthood.com.
Working With A Local Kansas City-Based Surrogacy Agency
If you have been through the overwhelming process of deciding to use an egg donor or gestational surrogate to build and grow your family, you understand you have options as to which agency or egg bank to work with. There are always pros and cons to any decision so it is important to weight both sides when deciding who to trust with such an important life event.
If you live in the Kansas City area, working with a local agency like Pathways To Parenthood, we offer benefits that you will not find with other agencies. The most important one is that your clinic likely has worked with us before and can offer you insight into the professionalism and experience of our staff.
Another benefit is Pathways To Parenthood’s egg donor candidates and gestational surrogates are well screened and live in the states of Kansas or Missouri. This can reduce your overall peace of mind as well as the costs of agency fees, donor/surrogate compensation, and travel costs.
For more information about working with Pathways To Parenthood, visit us today at www.pathwaystoparenthood.com.
Using An Egg Donor in Kansas City: The Waiting Game Continues….
One of the most challenging aspects of coping with infertility is the time you have to wait. Waiting for test results, waiting to hear back from your clinic, waiting to see if “it worked this time.” The list could go on and on.
There is a bit of relief for most people when they decide on a new opportunity to build and grow their family, such as using an egg donor. Getting started can be scary but exhilarating, being filled with hope that this new path will finally lead to success and happiness.
And then you find yourself waiting, again. Waiting to learn how to start the process, and with who. Waiting on finding the right donor, and then waiting for all of the next steps that come after that. Unfortunately, waiting is part of it all, and you cannot do much if anything to change that. But, you can enhance your coping strategies to help you get through those difficult waiting periods.
Here are a few suggestions:
Seek out support from new people and places. It is difficult to open up to others about your struggles, but finding friends or professionals who “get it” is better than trying to get support from others who simply cannot give you what you need.
Work on communication and boundaries. Learning how to communicate differently and directly with others (including your partner or spouse) can help in clarifying what you need (and don’t need) from others.
Be kind to yourself. Self-talk is very powerful so be careful how you talk to yourself. Imagine yourself having a conversation with your best friend who was having the difficulties you are experiencing. What would you say to him/her? Heed your own advice….
For information and support on using an egg donor to build and grow your family, visit www.pathwaystoparenthood.com.
Finding a Gestational Surrogate in Kansas City: How long will it take?
Planning to use a gestational surrogate to build and grow your family is a wonderful opportunity for those that do not have the option of carrying or delivering a baby. Making the final decision and being ready can take quite some time so when you are ready, waiting to find the right surrogate can feel like an eternity.
If you choose to find your own gestational surrogate, it can take many months to years to find a candidate that meets all of your requirements, and all of your doctor’s requirements. Many times intended parents will go through a screening process with 2-3 candidates if not more to find the right person.
Pathways To Parenthood has screened gestational surrogates that are ready and waiting to be matched with intended parents. If you are ready to move forward with using a gestational surrogate to build and grow your family, contact us today.