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Grief and the Donor Egg Decision

By Pathways To Parenthood:  An Egg Donor & Surrogacy Agency

Some women that are experiencing infertility will hear the words from their doctor that they may want to consider donor egg if they wish to become pregnant.  The initial reaction most women have when hearing those words is shock, denial, anger, or some combination of these emotions.

These feelings are normal, and unfortunately, necessary to allow the grief process to occur. There are losses associated with using donor egg (or donor sperm) to build your family.  It is essential to recognize and acknowledge those losses before knowing if using an egg donor to build your family is the right decision for you. Acceptance of this family building option can only be reached by working through the grief that is inevitably part of the journey.

How will you know when you are ready to make that decision?  That is not an easy question to answer.  If you are not sure, it may be beneficial to talk with an egg donor agency about using an egg donor to build your family.  Sometimes understanding the egg donation process, and the steps in the process to use an egg donor, can help alleviate some fears and concerns that will better prepare you for your journey.  Consider talking with a counselor knowledgeable about family building using an egg donor.  They can be helpful in processing difficult emotions so you can explore in a safe, supportive environment if using an egg donor to build our family is the right decision for you.


To learn more about the egg donor process, contact Kerry Christifano M.A., LCPC today at