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Family Building With Egg Donation in Kansas City: Fresh vs. Frozen

When deciding to use an egg donor to build and grow your family, now you have the choice of doing an in vitro fertilization cycle with an egg donor you have selected as your donor who cycles with you, or purchasing frozen eggs from an egg bank.

The option of using frozen donor eggs only became available as an option in October of 2012 so it is a relatively new area in the field of reproductive medicine.  Any research you read as the benefits/risk of using frozen eggs is based on limited data done in a short period of time.  The potential long-term risks and negative consequences are unknown at this point.  Egg banks are certainly not going to give you any information to dissuade you from buying eggs from their egg bank.  So as with anything else in the medical field, it is important be gather information from reliable sources that are not trying to sell you anything.  Educate yourself as to the pros and cons of each, because there are pros and cons to each option, and make the choice that best fits your needs.

One source to gather information about building your family through egg donation, and compare doing a fresh vs. frozen cycle is RESOLVE.  The following link will take you to an article that does a great job of explaining the differences of each, and the pros and cons of each.  You can find the article here at:

https://allpathsfb.org/fresh-donor-eggs-vs-frozen-donor-eggs/

For information about doing a fresh donor egg cycle, contact us at https://pathwaystoparenthood.com.

An Open Letter On Egg Donation: An Excerpt from by Marna Gatlin

An Open Letter To The Media Regarding Egg Donation

Dear Media:
As a mother via egg donation I am having an extraordinarily tough time understanding why you continue to attempt to sensationalize, dramatize, and over exaggerate the topic of egg donation.

First of all, egg donation is just a different way of creating or adding to one’s family. The way the media depicts egg donation is often as if it’s something from another planet, or that we are part of some secret society – the salacious and often scandalous way egg donation is written about (If it weren’t so ridiculous) would almost be insulting.

And Diane Sawyer – shame on you! I expected more! When you ran your story about egg donation compensation all you could talk about was the high demand for those donors with specific physical features, or being intellectually gifted. You didn’t talk about the everydayfamilies that receive the news they can no longer use their genetics to have a family and the struggles they face emotionally coming to terms with that. In fact, one of the ABC reporters/staffers posed as an egg donor candidate was supposedly told by an egg donation agency (after telling the agency what she looked like and perhaps how smart she was) that blondes moved fast and because of the college she went to she could command $25k per egg donor cycle and that’s what ABC focused on.

Ugh – This is the same, tired, worn out, old story – you are sending the WRONG message to the public.

And you know what really irks me about all of this? I have spent hours with various media outlets educating staffers and producers and other journalists about egg donation, about what intended parents look for in egg donors, why egg donors donate their eggs, the commitment that is required from an egg donor, why their role is so very important, those egg donors who are truly donating altruistically (yes there are many that do), compassionate egg donation, as well as egg donor compensation. I have also talked to the media about self-regulation within the industry, what might happen if the government would intervene, that there are no regulations regarding who can own and operate an egg donor agency, that anyone can slap up a sign and become “ABC Egg Donation, Inc”

I have shared countless times with the media how vulnerable intended parents are during this process, how important education is on the egg donor side as well as the intended parent side. When I speak to the media I talk to them about the real issues regarding egg donation – and I always leave them with this:

Egg donors are women – human beings first. They are patients second. They are egg donors third. That is the way it’s always been. Egg donors are not a commodity. They are not a means to an end. There is nothing dramatic, sensationalistic or salacious about any of that – its fact.

Another aspect to all of this that makes me crazy is that the media focuses and finds the egg donors who are truly in the minority who receive over $25,000 per egg donation cycle. That is not a fair representation of what really goes on in the field of egg donation. Why isn’t the media looking for those egg donors who are college students, or who work regular jobs that are choosing to become egg donors because for them it’s a way of helping another family while helping pay for school or save for a rainy day?

Now I get that those who aren’t afflicted by infertility might be interested in the whole egg donation thing – I too like the rest of the world am sick to death of the Medias portrayal of the egg donation industry. The whole mythology that eggs are for sale to the highest bidder is just nonsense.

The other piece to all of this that irritates me to no end is reading or hearing from the media that wealthy intended parents are really just having designer babies

Really? Designer babies? Come on.

I don’t blame the general public for thinking what they think – they are being spoon fed misinformation and that needs to stop. The truth is that all walks of life have infertility issues. 6.7 million people each year are afflicted with some form of infertility. To break it down simply – You are in a coffee shop with 100 people, at least 10 people in that coffee shop are infertility patients. That’s a lot of people.

Infertility doesn’t discriminate – you can be any skin color, race, creed, or sexual orientation. You can be fat, thin, skinny, or buff. You can be wealthy, middle class, or under the poverty level. You can be a smoker. You can be a non-smoker. You can be a drinker or a non-drinker. You can be a meat eater, vegan, a runner, or a couch potato. You can be religious or you can be an Agnostic or an Atheist. And there are those who have been stricken by Cancer, or some other illness that makes it impossible to use their own genetics to have a child. There are those who are born without ovaries, or eggs. There are those who have a genetic abnormality or condition that prevents them from having children with their own genetics that require the use of an egg donor – and finally there are those who have waited a long time to find a partner, or have worked to establish a career and who have discovered their age prohibits them from using their own genetics to have a child.

And while we are here – can we talk about the money aspect? This is expensive and in most states within the United States infertility treatment is considered elective treatment and is not covered by medical insurance. We don’t treat infertility like we do Cancer, Diabetes, or Cardiovascular Disease – and it should be. The majority of us aren’t millionaires who are able to just write a check without thinking twice — we work hard in our jobs just like everyone else does each day every day. When we are given the news that in order to have a family we need to use an egg donor one of the first things most worry about is how to pay for it. We save, we borrow (from family, friend, or our 401K). We take 2nd mortgages out on our house, we sell our things, we charge our credit cards, and many times we take a 2nd job. And again we worry – oh how we worry.

For information about using an egg donation to build and grow your family, visit www.pathwaystoparenthood.com.

Egg Donation in Kansas City: What is the first step for intended parents?

When a woman or couples first hear the recommendation from their physician that using an egg donor to build and grow their family is an option they should consider, knowing where to start is the first thought many people have.  Although there are many important steps in the process, the first important step is allowing time to understand all of the emotions that come along with hearing those words.

It is normal to feel a variety of difficult emotions, and one of those feelings is grief.  Most women and couples don’t understand that grieving the loss of having a genetic child is something that all people feel when they learn that using their own eggs (or sperm) is not a viable option.  It is a loss to the individual, but also to the couple, as a husband and wife must grieve together that their combined genetics to have a child is not the path to parenthood for them.

The time that it takes for an individual or couple to grieve so they can move forward is extremely variable.  It can take a few weeks, a few months, and sometimes even longer.  Counseling can be very helpful while going through this stage of the process. You will know when you are ready to move forward.  Maybe you will decide using an egg donor is not the right option for you.  There are other ways to build and grow your family so take the time you need to figure out which option is best for you.

For more information about using egg donation to build and grow your family, contact us today at www.pathwaystoparenthood.com.

Kansas City Egg Donor Shares Her Story

My hope in sharing some of my thoughts and feelings about my journey as a first- time egg donor is to help others know what an amazing experience helping others build and grow their family can be!

I thought about being an egg donor for quite some time and what initially gave me the idea to help others is such a special way was a conversation with my husband. We knew friends and family members struggling with infertility and saw their heartbreak first hand. How could we not consider this opportunity to give such a special gift?

I have two amazing children of my own and know the joys of pregnancy, childbirth, and parenting.  My heart breaks knowing there are so many good people that want to experience these same joys but can’t because of infertility.  It only makes sense to me to donate my eggs, that I will not use myself, to give others a chance they would not otherwise have to be parents.

Working with Pathways To Parenthood made my egg donation process easy and stress-free.  I knew what to expect and they were always available to answer my questions and address my needs.

The whole experience of being an egg donor for a loving couple that wanted a baby was more fulfilling than I imagined.  I feel lucky to have been a part of such a special process for my recipient family.  I plan to donate again and look forward to helping another family realize their dream of becoming parents.

Pathways To Parenthood Donor # 72488