No matter where you are on your journey to become a mom or a dad, Mother’s Day and Father’s Day is an emotional landmine. If you are planning on building your family through surrogacy, egg donation, sperm donation, embryo donation, or adoption, the journey can be especially long and daunting. In the midst of your journey, the celebration of Mother’s Day and Father’s Day is a reminder of what you are not, at least not yet. To survive these holidays takes bravery and courage. Bravery and courage that those who have never had to face what you are facing can fully understand.
Although bravery and courage are very helpful, it is impossible to avoid all of the emotional difficulties that are present during this time. Resolve, The National Infertility Association offers a few suggestions that might be beneficial to you. https://resolve.org/support/managing-infertility-stress/coping-with-mothers-day-and-fathers-day/
Whatever your path to parenthood, know that you are not alone. There are resources available to you, and Resolve is one of many. For more resources on coping with infertility, or managing your non-traditional family building journey, contact us at www.pathwaystoparenthood.com. We offer expertise in family building through surrogacy, egg donation, and embryo donation.
It also may be helpful to consider that all the work that you are doing to build your family, whatever your path is, shows that in your heart, you already are a mom or dad. The effort and devotion you are committing to becoming a parent can only be derived from the strong desire to be a mom or dad. Although we cannot compare stories, it is undeniable that those who become parents through the strains and struggles of infertility and/or family building that requires a tremendous amount of time, energy, and money, have an appreciation of being a parent that no one else can truly understand. In closing, this quote seems to speak to those of you that have to face Mother’s Day and Father’s Day while trying to become a parent yourself.
“The thing about being brave is it doesn’t come with the absence of fear and hurt. Bravery is the ability to look fear and hurt in the face and say move aside, you are in the way.”